June 28

Well, despite being threatened physically, legally, and emotionally and being yelled at with insults all day yesterday, despite having doors slammed, etc., I managed to get my school work caught up.

At this point, I think my partner really needs to be in the VA psych ward. I'm not sure how it got to this point, but part of it was probably just more pressure than she could deal with. She applied for a job she might get, she had clashes with other students at school (U of Phoenix), and she had these issues with the tribe.

I think the tribe is really what has pushed her over. I feel very angry at this organization for the way they handled things. When she joined, it seemed they supported her. She had some really bad experiences with some of the guys, but they seemed to stand up for her. The problem was that the price for all of this was too high. They also handled her situation in a very insensitive and what I would consider stupid and counterproductive manner. I'm not sure whether the real issue is just that certain people in the organization want absolute power no matter what the consequences are, but that's a possible explanation.

When she joined this tribe, I feel they made way too many demands on her. They knew she did not have much money. They demanded so many long trips to various locations, and she didn't have the gas money for this. She started spending her financial aid money on gas. Another really stupid, bad thing they did was to try to turn her against me, for some reason. This is what makes me think possibly this is a cult. One reason she was able to spend so much time with them was because of me. I kept the house going, I let her use vehicles, I kept her dog so she could spend lots of time with them. I leant things--such as lending vehicles to help people move, to get people to the hospital, etc. I leant a nice gazebo which was used during one of the events. However, they continued to have meetings about me making all kinds of goofy frivolous charges against me. I just found this out, incidentally. Even with all the demands they made on her, if they had just been a little nicer to me and kept their mouth shut about me, I think maybe she could have participated without it really driving her to the point where now she needs help and needs to be an inpatient somewhere.

There is one particular woman who caused most of the problem. This woman has alienated her own daughter, so it's not surprising she's destroyed my family. This woman for some reason just has to control everyone she can control. She is married, she has a son and daughter-in-law who still speak to her, and she does have a devoted clique. So why she has to control and monopolize everyone she can is beyond me. But it was clear from the beginning that she had to have more time and devotion from my partner than I was permitted to have. This woman will let my partner crash on the floor maybe for one night. But she has no means to support my partner, give her a nice home to stay in, take in her pets, allow her to plug in her computer and do her school work. Also, by destroying our relationship, now my partner is allegedly going to leave with four cats and a dog. I loved the dog and the four cats. My ten remaining cats loved my partner and will no longer have her.

This all seems to make no sense. That's why I don't think it is about anything sensible. It's not about accepting a new tribe member who has a lot to offer. It's about one person's need (and possibly some other people are like this too) but particularly one person's need to control everyone she can control even if it destroys them.